WHEN A PET DIES
Anyone who has ever been 'adopted by' a pet knows that special bond, that deep relationship, that develops. They let us think that we are the 'owner', and that we are somehow in charge, but it is still part of them just adoring us, and playing the game. They know the real game...just be present in the moment, and absolutely adore the human you hang with, 'cause it is what you do.
And, with these pets... be it a hamster; your gecko; the horse you play with; that bird that chirps, squawks or talks at you; in addition to the cats, dogs, fish ... just about any being we can relate to on that level we embrace as 'pet'. Even spiders!
My locker mate in junior high adored tarantula's. Now, I don't know if you remember off-hand what a tarantula looks like. It is impressively large (some to 6" across), impressively hairy, impressively 'scary movie' creepy slow moving with those even more impressively long hairy legs , they sit back on their spider-haunches and lift the two front legs at you in a warrior threat when they are surprised. Supposedly very gentle, smart, creatures... and that's nifty. Until you are late for biology and reach into your locker to grab your textbook and don't realize until you are two hallways away that one of your locker mates' pet tarantulas is climbing your head.
That's not so nifty.
But, she adored those spiders. And, after I learned to 'look before I grabbed', locker-wise... the spiders and I adjusted to each other. I could also see that there was a real relationship, and those hairy little beasts almost seemed to have unique personalities and interactions with Ginny. That taught me a great deal, just watching her with them.
When I was but a wee lass, my mom used to joke that if there was a lost, sick, injured or abused animal within a 5 mile radius of our house, they would find their way to my doorstep, and I would take them in and love them back to life. She was right. What made it odd was that we lived in LA almost on an on ramp of an 8 lane freeway, in a cul-de-sac, with so much traffic around that the little animal would almost have to magically transport itself to make it to my doorstep.
Still, those many, many little beings began my legacy of becoming Official Rescue Mom to any pet being. Over the years I have been there when these little love baskets have died. Too many times to count, and I don't even want to count. But, I am also a teacher, a healer, an explorer of life... how it works, and our pets teach us much of that.
Even though we know, going in, unless you have an exotic bird with a 200 year life span, that this pet which has taken up residence in your heart and soul, is going to die. We know that. We do. We really do. It is the way it works.
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But, when it happens, when that pet dies, it can be some of the hardest time we face. I think, in my years of counselling those who have lost a pet to death, that it is because of the way we love them, and the way they love us, that causes that deep sense of loss. The term "unconditional love" has been overused and abused in modern language, but our pets give us the true essence of what unconditional love is. That relationship, that feeling, that love, is something that touches us on a deep, resonant, soul level like no other.
Grieving the loss of your pet is different that of a human. The way you experience that grief is different. Coming through to the healing, ready to love and adopt and be loved by a new pet friend is a unique journey and path for everyone.
Here are some tips for making it better:
We offer a lot of pet loss counselling, a great deal available on instant download audio and video, based on our years of dealing with loss of a pet. Being able to find someone who understands, who has 'been there', can be a great help for you during this time.
If it is a loved one going through the death of a pet, here are some tips for you:
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There are a few good resources on the web, including our site Loss of a Pet Quotes. Most of all, honour the pet being that shared your heart, whatever that feels like to you.... grieving is a very personal, intimate thing. Don't let anyone give you 'guidelines'. You are an individual, and you are experiencing what you are experiencing. That, during the time of mourning your pet, is all that matters.
Spencer Harte, http://www.LossofaPetQuotes.com